Let's just say I did take Silentplanet's advice and did seek some councelling I have just one question to ask...........
Where would I start??? (and I mean where to go to find someone decent who doesn't cost too much, not where would I start with my 'issues')
I think that counselling is over-rated , though it certainly can be helpful ~ You might be able to get some free counselling through your doctor's surgery , though that might only be half an hour every 2 or 3 weeks .
There may be other low cost options , though it might be best to negotiate an affordable fee with a well-qualified professional counsellor or psychotherapist .